Welcome To Betray No More
ROBERTA WANDS, M.A. | FOUNDER AND AUTHOR
My professional and academic background:
I have a Master's Degree in Clinical Psychology and I'm a former Licensed Psychotherapist, with a wide range of professional experience working with women, men, couples, families, and adolescents.
This includes providing grief counseling and support group facilitation for Hospice; crisis intervention and management at a domestic violence women's shelter; therapy with individuals and couples at a community counseling center; and private practice with a specialization in couples therapy and infidelity recovery.
Although I no longer provide counseling services, I use my own personal experiences with infidelity betrayal to develop articles; recovery journals and workbooks; and courses to help you cope with the grief of betrayal and infidelity.
My experience as a former betrayed spouse:
I've been in your shoes and I know all too well, the devastation and pain betrayal brings to any woman's life and heart.
Emotional pain doesn't even begin to describe it, right?
I have to admit that I made my fair share of mistakes after discovering my ex husband's betrayal. I didn't know back then, what I know now.
On top of that, I had many years invested in that marriage.
Making the decision to makeup or breakup after betrayal is a tough one.
There are times when it all becomes too much and you realize you just don't deserve to be treated poorly.
You may have discovered, (like I did,) that your spouse is not willing to make the changes necessary for you to feel good about your relationship.
Or you may be one of the lucky ones whose partner steps up and does what is necessary to support a healthy relationship or marriage.
No matter what happens in your relationship, the goal is to get right with yourself and to come to believe that you will be fine with, or without him.
Knowing you are going to be ok, no matter what happens in the future is a place of true freedom after betrayal.
It will take a great deal of emotional work to get to the other side of betrayal and rebuild your life - but it can be done.
One of the reasons I created this site is because I had such a hard time finding the right kind of support for myself when I was going through betrayal.
Unfortunately, victim blaming and excuses for his behavior are sometimes the reaction others have when they hear our story of betrayal.
I chose not to continue my marriage due to ongoing manipulation, deception, and disrespect. In my mind, this is abusive behavior.
Maybe you've been thinking about leaving your spouse.
Maybe you just aren't sure what you will do.
I understand. It's not an easy decision to make.
But I want you to know that you have a place to turn to here - no matter what you decide.
This is a compassionate, judgement-free zone for you.
And there are 2 things I know for sure:
Repeated exposure to infidelity puts your emotional and physical health at stake.
You deserve to be in an emotionally safe relationship, and to be treated with respect.
I invite you to become part of the Betray No More community and together, we can begin turning your painful life into a more joyful one.
Hope and Healing,
Roberta Wands, M.A. | Betray No More
The Betray No More Mission
Transforming The Hearts And Lives Of Women Through Inspiration, Education, And Support, After Experiencing Infidelity Grief And Betrayal.