Welcome To Betray No More
Roberta Wands, M.A. | Founder
My professional and academic background:
I have a Master's Degree in Clinical Psychology and I'm a former Licensed Psychotherapist, with a wide range of professional experiences working with women and couples.
This includes providing grief counseling and group facilitation for Hospice; crisis intervention and management at a domestic violence women's shelter; therapy with individuals and couples at a community counseling center; and private practice with a specialization in couples counseling and infidelity recovery.
Although I no longer provide counseling services, I use my personal experiences to develop articles, resources, and courses to help you overcome the grief and emotional pain of betrayal and infidelity.
My experience as a former betrayed spouse:
I've been in your shoes and I know all too well, the devastation and pain betrayal brings to any woman's life and heart.
Emotional pain doesn't even begin to describe how hard it is right?
I have to admit that I made my fair share of mistakes after discovering my ex husband's betrayal. I didn't know back then, what I know now.
On top of that, I had many years invested in that relationship which made it harder to let go. And I had my children to consider.
I struggled emotionally between the reasons to stay and the reasons to go.
Until the pain became too much and I realized I didn't deserve to be treated like that.
You may have discovered, (like I did,) that your spouse is not willing to make the changes necessary for you to feel good about your relationship.
You may be dealing with emotional pain on a daily basis.
There is life after betrayal, and it can be so much better for you.
It will take a great deal of emotional work and support to get to the other side of betrayal and rebuild your life - but it can be done.
One of the reasons I created this site is because I had such a hard time finding the right kind of support for myself when I was going through betrayal.
The victim blaming and excuses for my ex's bad behavior were something I wasn't willing to accept.
On top of that, there was also encouragement for me to forgive him and repair my relationship.
I had sure tried to do that for a very long time. But I was the only one trying.
Sometimes relationship repair just isn't possible.
It takes two to heal a deeply troubled relationship.
This is especially true when you're dealing with infidelity and betrayal.
I've learned, both personally and professionally, that it's not always desirable to continue a relationship with someone who is manipulative, deceptive, and disrespectful.
In my case, I lost valuable years of my life to someone who cared more about himself than me.
Maybe you've been thinking about leaving your spouse.
Maybe you just aren't sure what you will do. I understand it's not an easy decision.
But I want you to know that you have a place to turn to here.
This is a judgement-free place for you.
You will find, however, that I make no excuses for deception and betrayal.
I will be up front about how manipulative those who embrace a cheating lifestyle can be.
I choose to keep it real.
I know that exposure to repeated infidelity puts your emotional and physical health at stake.
You deserve to be in a safe relationship.
I invite you to become part of the Betray No More community and together, we can begin turning your painful life into a more joyful one.
Hope and Healing,
Roberta Wands, M.A. | Betray No More
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