Welcome To Betray No More
Roberta Wands, M.A. | Founder
My professional and academic background:
I have a Master's Degree in Clinical Psychology and I'm a former Licensed Psychotherapist, with a wide range of professional experiences working with women and couples.
This includes providing grief counseling and support group facilitation for Hospice; crisis intervention and management at a domestic violence women's shelter; therapy with individuals and couples at a community counseling center; and private practice with a specialization in couples therapy and infidelity recovery.
Although I no longer provide counseling services, I use my personal experiences to develop articles; recovery journals and workbooks; and courses to help you overcome the grief and emotional pain of betrayal and infidelity.
My experience as a former betrayed spouse:
I've been in your shoes and I know all too well, the devastation and pain betrayal brings to any woman's life and heart.
Emotional pain doesn't even begin to describe it, right?
I have to admit that I made my fair share of mistakes after discovering my ex husband's betrayal. I didn't know back then, what I know now.
On top of that, I had many years invested in that marriage.
Making the decision to makeup or breakup after betrayal is a tough one.
There are times when the pain becomes too much and you realize you just don't deserve to be treated poorly.
You may have discovered, (like I did,) that your spouse is not willing to make the changes necessary for you to feel good about your relationship.
Or you may be one of the lucky ones whose partner steps up and does the right thing.
No matter what happens in your relationship, the goal is to get right with yourself and to firmly believe you will be fine with, or without him.
That is stepping into a place of true freedom after betrayal.
It will take a great deal of emotional work and support to get to the other side of betrayal and rebuild your life - but it can be done.
One of the reasons I created this site is because I had such a hard time finding the right kind of support for myself when I was going through betrayal.
Unfortunately, victim blaming and excuses for his behavior are sometimes what we're faced with after discovering infidelity.
In the end, I decided I did not want to continue a marriage with someone who continued to be manipulative, deceptive, and disrespectful.
Maybe you've been thinking about leaving your spouse.
Maybe you just aren't sure what you will do.
I understand it's not an easy decision.
But I want you to know that you have a place to turn to here - no matter what you decide.
This is a judgement-free zone for you.
You will find, however, that I make no excuses for deception or betrayal.
I know that exposure to repeated infidelity puts your emotional and physical health at stake.
You deserve to be in an emotionally safe relationship.
I invite you to become part of the Betray No More community and together, we can begin turning your painful life into a more joyful one.
Hope and Healing,
Roberta Wands, M.A. | Betray No More
The Betray No More Mission
Transforming The Hearts And Lives Of Women Through Inspiration, Education, And Support, After Experiencing Infidelity Grief And Betrayal.