In today's video, I focus on Infidelity Recovery Principle #6 | Embracing Self-Compassion vs. Slipping Into Depression After Infidelity.
While grief and emotional pain are a very normal part of the recovery process after infidelity, sometimes things can take a turn for the worst and we can start to slip into depression - possibility becoming suicidal.
Infidelity is a serious relationship injury and it isn't unusual for suicidal thoughts to occur - even though we may have no intention of actually following through on these thoughts.
One of the key ways to identify whether you are slipping into depression is to notice what you say about yourself. Specifically, it is important to notice if your self-talk tends to focus on how defective and unworthy you are.
Negative self-talk can provide a clue that you are spiraling into depression.
I personally experienced this and found that there is a big difference between experiencing grief and pain over a partner's betrayal, and slipping into a deep depression.
The pain is different because the focus is different.
- Feeling depressed can cause us to focus negatively on WHO WE ARE, and on feelings of worthlessness.
- Feelings of grief are often expressed about the actual loss we experienced.
If you ever need someone to talk to, there is always someone there to listen.
Hope and Healing . . .
Roberta Wands, M.A.