infidelity in marriage

After Discovering Infidelity: Do We Really Need To Talk About The Details?

After Discovering Infidelity: Do We Really Need To Talk About The Details?

I recently received a question via email from a married woman who is currently taking my free Serial Infidelity email course.

Here is the problem she currently faces in her marriage:

"I've caught him flirting with more than one woman on text messages, each time he says he does not know what got into him and it will not happen again.

Recently I caught him flirting, with more texts that are too sexual, and it seems as if he slept with them.

The problem is, he doesn't want to talk about it . . . I really want to hear from him why he did it, and what exactly happened.

Am I asking for too much?

You Did Not Cause Him To Choose Infidelity: A Video About His Personal Responsibility For His Actions.

You Did Not Cause Him To Choose Infidelity: A Video About His Personal Responsibility For His Actions.

In this video I talk about letting go of the feeling that you are somehow responsible for his infidelity.

There are a few reasons why you may find yourself feeling this way:

  •  He may be blaming you in subtle, or not so subtle ways in order to escape taking responsibility for what he has done. That is on him.

  •  Our spouse's unfaithfulness is a major source of rejection and abandonment. This often triggers feelings of not being good enough.

The truth is, the reasons for choosing infidelity are many.

Each of those reasons points back to him every time.

He alone, took the steps to break his commitment to you. There were other choices he could have made - but he chose infidelity.

Can Your Marriage Survive Infidelity? How To Know If Recovery Is Possible

Can Your Marriage Survive Infidelity? How To Know If Recovery Is Possible

"How do I know whether to end my marriage, or try to make it work after discovering infidelity?"

This is a question I was recently asked via email, and it's one I've been asked many times before.

I decided it would be best to answer this question on the blog because you may be trying to figure that out too.

After all, you have given years of your heart and life to this marriage. And for that reason, it deserves serious, thoughtful consideration.

Ending a marriage is a really difficult decision to make - even after infidelity.

I do think underlying the question, "How do I know whether to end my marriage, or try to make it work?" is another question:

Is there any hope for my marriage after discovering infidelity?

In this article, we'll look at what needs to happen in order to tip the odds of infidelity recovery success in your favor . . .

Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder After Infidelity Betrayal: How To Cope Personally & In Your Marriage

Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder After Infidelity Betrayal: How To Cope Personally & In Your Marriage

Because May is Mental Health Awareness Month I decided to write about something you may have a lot of experience dealing with: The symptoms of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD,) after discovering infidelity betrayal.

Knowing about the symptoms of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder and how to cope with them personally, and in your marriage is so important.

In fact, it is just as important to know about PSTD as it is to know about the symptoms of infidelity grief because you are more than likely experiencing the symptoms of both.

It's really no wonder that it takes so much time and effort to fully recover after discovering infidelity in your relationship . . .

Break Free From Infidelity Shame: How To Feel Better After Discovering His Infidelity

Break Free From Infidelity Shame: How To Feel Better After Discovering His Infidelity

Today I want to talk to you about how to break free from the feeling of shame that comes from being betrayed and victimized by infidelity.

Infidelity shame really isn't talked about a whole lot, is it?

Instead of acknowledging the shame we feel, we quietly carry it around like an ugly, unwanted stranger.

It's just something those who have been victimized tend to do.

Rape victims, child abuse victims, domestic violence victims and infidelity victims all deal with painful victimization by carrying around painful shame.

Consequently, there is a tendency to become paralyzed by it.

Shame is the keeper of dark secrets.

The Aftermath Of Infidelity & Betrayal In Your Relationship: How To Create Safety & Healing When Talking To Him About Infidelity

The Aftermath Of Infidelity & Betrayal In Your Relationship: How To Create Safety & Healing When Talking To Him About Infidelity

In this article, I'm going to share 4 specific steps you can take to:

  • Establish safety, trust, and healing during your interactions with your spouse.
  • Promote your personal healing.
  • Make relationship repair progress possible.

It's time to begin turning down the volume on this crisis so you can begin to build a solid foundation of connection in your relationship.